I was thinking a few years ago if one can have wings and roots in the same time and with a very radical approach i was concluding that you can only have one of the 2, and i was always up for the wings. I have been away from Romania for over an year now, and it’s interesting to see how i perceive my own culture now, how i relate to my roots and my wings.
If i were to analyze the culture as detached as i could, i would say it’s a culture of HEART, with all emotions that a heart contains. I was talking with a friend that also lives abroad that our culture holds a certain amount of pain and sadness inside it. It is culture of effort, of striving and of being challenged. It is a culture of rebirth and growth, not self- sustained and not with a long term perspective, nevertheless it has a potential to grow that deserves to be acknowledged. It is a culture of compassion, with plenty of opportunities that enable you to grow in compassion and serve. It is a culture of risk and courage, where one can and will risk security for freedom.
I think there are no good or bad cultures, nor good or bad traits of a culture. There are environments where, in behavior terms, some traits can be your best friends, and other environments where they can be your worst enemies.
I don’t want to underestimate the power of the culture i grew up in when it comes to the effect it had on my patterns and behaviors, there are specific traits that seem to be market in my DNA, and there are a lot of others that i was so scripted in that at times, it seems mission impossible to reverse that. But behaviors can change, and so can mindsets. With concentration and determination patterns can be broken, and eventually one can look at life from the other side of the glass.
What one can’t reverse is the emotional legacy that these roots left. I think now that at a deeper level, the content doesn’t matter much, what matters is the structure of this legacy and how one deals with it. The energy of all this pain, effort, courage, compassion, risk, rebirth all expressed through my family that got to me, and i am made of this energy. Like the pith of a plant, it makes no difference for the plant what that pith is made of, nevertheless that’s all that matters. A plant couldn’t look at the sun if it wasn’t for the pith that flows through it because it wouldn’t exist anymore. And i couldn’t dream and grow wings, if it wasn’t one with this energy.
I feel like a kid that has no judgement over what and why and it’s just grateful to have been the result of this combination, of having been given the chance to be and to become. That’s where i feel my roots.
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Ina, i don’t know how to explain it. i just feel it